Is timing a big deal for guys and dating

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Speed Dating, as a single word, is a registered trademark of Aish Ha Torah.

Speed dating, as two separate words, is often used as a generic term for similar events.

You know the scenario: A guy shows interest—maybe even a hint of chivalry—you go on a few dates here, a get together among friends there, and some sparks fly. Maybe he even offers some helpful clarification like, “Whoa, I’m just not ready for anything serious.” Was it something you said? The Flake It’s okay to want something serious from date one.

He seems into it, or at least you don't have any evidence to suggest he’s Finally, you can’t take it anymore. Now, I’m not talking “marry me tomorrow” serious but a desire for a man who is thoughtful, caring, intentional, and forward-thinking.

I get so many emails asking me about whether to date someone who is separated, recently divorced, or even fresh out of a breakup that I wanted to tackle this tricky subject.

We’re often scared (even if nothing has actually happened yet with a particular person) that we may be letting our last chance or even best chance saloon slip away.

What we forget is that even if a person hasn’t just exited a relationship, aside from knowing our own boundaries (which can rule out certain things that we’ve already made a decision on in advance of), we cannot get all of the answers upfront or have someone tell us what ‘the ending’ will be.

Each situation is different but what you can say with a high degree of certainty is that someone who’s just fallen out of their marriage, who’s still in reconciliation negotiations, who’s still very influenced by their spouse, and who has been separated for a long time ‘just because’, is going to bring pain into your life.

Indeed it is a right of passage to update that Facebook status.

Speed dating is a formalized matchmaking process of dating system whose purpose is to encourage people to meet a large number of new people.

Its origins are credited to Rabbi Yaacov Deyo of Aish Ha Torah, originally as a way to help Jewish singles meet and marry.

The first speed-dating event took place at Peet’s Café in Beverly Hills in late 1998.

Usually advance registration is required for speed dating events.

The "single" on my Facebook status is old, dusty and rotting.

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