When you've been hurt by someone crappy, the last thing you want to do is jump into a new relationship and reveal all the sensitive, potentially scary parts of yourself to some random person.
I know you don't see yourself as a random person, but we do.
If you are currently dating a guy who has a history with an unfaithful partner, you are dealing with someone who may have some serious trust issues.
You feel super vulnerable and scared, and you act like a weirdo with new guys because you're just super off your game. Not because we don't want to do it sooner, but because our last relationship was with a nightmare monster from the sea, so we're always waiting for the shoe to drop. Especially if our last boyfriend would do super-nice things for us after treating us like crap.
People tend to fixate on what exactly happened to a person whenever they deal with someone who hasn’t had a healthy childhood or adolescent period.
But don’t we all go through things that leave deep-seated scars? To look out for a person and deal with them with love and care when they are emotionally raw and vulnerable is not something that has to be thought about.
The collateral damage that is inflicted on her psyche may take the shape of bad decisions, attraction towards older men, and general distrust in males. ‘Daddy issues’ is rather misleading a term to refer to what is wrong with a person. We become the person that we are because of everything that happens to us.
During the journey, a part of us is left behind and we never realize how the entirety of our minds slowly disintegrates into bits and pieces. Even the person who seems perfect on the outside has gone through phases that were not that easy.
The role of a father figure is always undermined because it is the mother who brings the child into the world.