As a Dad, I must be involved in an active dialogue around the topic of what “biblical relationships” look like with my daughters and sons.
This should start at an early age and proceed until they walk down the aisle.
I suppose I am concerned about being judged, more than anything else. When the abuse in the marriage started, I and my baby fled to Florida, several states away from my home, and we hid for two years while seeking a divorce... I was very close with my son, his wife and their 4 children. My son and his wife hit a BIG Road Block in their lives. that is extremely controlling and doesn't want him to have a relationship with his family and friends anymore now that she is in his life. I raised her alone since she was 5 months old, she barely knows her Dad and he is negative and my family is estranged, the few times they have been there have been abusive, My daughter...
Truth is, I am feeling lost and have no idea how to move forward. When this happens to a mom, it is humiliating, depressing and you feel so alone. It's late, I'm alone and despondent, I weep for my son. They allowed her parents to live with them for a while, but don't anymore. Our son is in his late twenties,engaged,working,and up until a year ago was the light of our life.
For33 yaers always behind him good or bad and now his ........ and I had a terrible falling out over a personal email I read that she received from a married man. The Devil's Dilemma: The Causes and Consequences of Adult Children Abandoning Their Parents" by the author Sharon A. This book has put this whole issue of being estranged, abandoned, and ostracized by the daughters that I've loved with all my heart in the correct light... After years of trying to heal this extremely dysfunction family (family counseling--alone--for 18 years), I now understand where I went wrong: I had been placing my children ahead of God.To avoid becoming a "statistic," try to internalize these 10 insights. You pick the wrong person because you expect him/her to change after you're married. As a colleague of mine so wisely put it, "You actually can expect people to change after they're married... " So when it comes to the other person's spirituality, character, personal hygiene, communication skills, and personal habits, make sure you can live with these as they are now. You pick the wrong person because you focus more on chemistry than on character. Men and women have unique emotional needs, and more often than not, it is the man who just doesn't "get it." Jewish tradition places the onus on the man to understand the emotional needs of a woman and to satisfy them.Chemistry ignites the fire, but good character keeps it burning. "I'm in love" often means, "I'm in lust." Attraction is there, but have you carefully checked out this person's character? Ask yourself: Do I want to be more like this person? The unique need of a woman is to be loved -- to feel that she is the most important person in her husband's life.Here are four character traits to definitely check for: Humility: Does this person believe that "doing the right thing" is more important than personal comfort? The husband needs to give her consistent, quality attention.Kindness: Does this person enjoy giving pleasure to other people? Responsibility: Can I depend on this person to do what s/he says s/he's going to do? This is most apparent in Judaism's approach to intimacy.If you were going to spend a lot of money to buy a new car and you personally knew little about how cars work, wouldn’t you want an expert to help you buy the right one?